7 Remarkable Signs That You Should Marry Your Life Partner

18 min readDec 18, 2020

Marriage: Love is the reason. Lifelong friendship is the gift. Kindness is the cause. Till death do us part is the length.
— Fawn Weaver
Who we marry is one of the most important choices in life. One that will influence the level of happiness, growth, and success, like no other choice.
I am at that point in my life where I know what I want when it comes to dating and relationships. I value honesty, compassion, loyalty, friendship, and companionship.
As I have grown older, appearance has ceased being a great priority for me. I mean, it plays its part but I value the inner beauty and personality traits of my partner more than their height or the number of rock-hard abs across their abdomen.
Many people, like me, experience this shift around their late twenties or early thirties. You come to the realization that the real trait of attractiveness in a person is more about their character than their looks.
This comes in handy when choosing someone to spend the rest of your life with.
How do you make the leap of faith and decide to marry the person you love?
There isn’t a definite answer but looking out for how they tick these boxes might help.
Here are 7 remarkable signs that you should marry your partner.
1. You both value your friendship
Marriage, ultimately, is the practice of becoming passionate friends. — Harville Hendrix
The word “friendship” conjures up thoughts of honesty, vulnerability, trust, companionship, and mutual respect. It also implies an investment of time and energy.
When you are friends with your partner, you have mutual respect for and enjoyment of each other’s company. And I think that is a vital part of a happy marriage.
C.S. Lewis said of friendship: “It is when we are doing things together that friendship springs up — painting, sailing ships, praying, philosophizing, and fighting shoulder to shoulder. Friends look in the same direction.”
When you and your partner value your friendship, when you have arguments it is less about who wins the argument, and more about coming to an amicable solution.
It is not a lack of love, but of friendship, that usually catalyzes an unhappy marriage.
So, if you are friends with your partner in the true sense of the word, that is a sign that should you get married. You will be able to sail through whatever storms may come your way.
2. You practice forgiveness
There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love. — Brynt H. McGill
For a successful marriage with your partner, you should have the ability to forgive your partner.
Being able to let go of past hurts, disappointments and petty arguments is a way to keep yourself healthy both physically and emotionally. When partners practice forgiveness, fully aware that both individuals are capable of hurting and making mistakes, their marital bond becomes stronger.
Keeping count of past wrongs wears both partners down and makes way for hate and extreme bitterness into the relationship.
Your partner is a human being with weaknesses, just like you. With forgiveness granted generously towards each other comes another chance to make new beginnings.
Marriage is three parts love and seven parts forgiveness.
If you and your partner forgive each other wholeheartedly, this is a sign that you could have a successful marriage.
3. You know how to pick your battles
Choose your battles wisely because if you fight them all, you will be too tired to win the really important ones.
When living with your partner, it is easy to have disagreements especially when you spend a lot of time together. That is why it is important to choose your battles wisely.
There are times when it is just not worth arguing over trivial issues. Not dwelling on what annoys you and changing the subject is the wisest option in such cases.
Be selective in picking your fights and battles. Sometimes, peace is better than being right.
When my sister Alice had just gotten married, they used to fight about the direction in which toilet paper should be hang. Now, they don’t care what direction it is hanging or whether it is just lying on the floor.
That is a trivial issue that should not waste their energy. If you have learned to pick your battles with your partner, you could be on your way to a successful and happy marriage.
In case you were wondering, the 1891 patent from Seth Wheeler here shows that the toilet paper should go up and over.
Do not waste efforts winning small battles but losing the war.
When you have learned how to pick your battles with each other and with the world, this is a sign that your marriage will probably survive the war. You should marry your partner.
4. You have a positive mindset towards marriage
A positive attitude gives you power over your circumstances instead of your circumstances having power over you.
The Law of Attraction states that positive or negative thoughts bring positive or negative experiences into a person’s life.
The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are made from “pure energy”, and that a process of like energy attracting like energy exists through which a person can improve their health, wealth, and personal relationships.
This plays into relationships because whatever mindset you have towards situations in marriage is what manifests.
Marriage at its core is all about respect for the other person — and respect goes both ways.
Your thoughts, mindset, and attitude towards marriage really matter.
If you have a positive mindset towards the concept of marriage, then you open up the possibilities of having a successful marriage with your partner.
5. You love each other
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person. — Mignon MacLaughlin
Love is a choice.
Love is in the details.
I do not believe only in falling in love. I also believe in growing in love. In retrospect, we all have love waiting to thrive from within our hearts. All great relationships are built on a foundation of mutual trust, honesty, and love.
For your partner, love is something you should develop and sharpen with focus and determination. Keeping well in mind that it is your choice what you invest your love in.
Many scholars see love as an emotional attachment (Hazan & Shaver, 1987), and as such, they consider the quality of a relationship rather than viewing love as a “yes/no” question.
I think that when you truly love someone, every single day you spend with them, you fall in love even more. Every day you spend with that person is like an adventure into their soul.
You discover that love is in the heart because you love them even when you do not see them.
If you can choose purposefully to love your partner and not just rely on the emotional feelings that you had in your early days, then you should marry your partner.
6. Your relationship is built on trust
A marriage without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it as long as you want but it will not go anywhere.
One of the most important aspects of a strong, happy, and successful relationship is trust.
It is important that you and your partner fully trust and support each other. It is important to commit to making decisions together, planning your lives together, strategizing together, and communicating well together.
The reality is that trust is built slowly over time. The basis of trust is really the idea of attunement.
The work of building trust happens slowly as you move through life.
If you wholeheartedly trust your partner and know that you can count on them through thick and thin, then it might be time to take the next step. Maybe you should marry your partner.
7. You create your own relationship
Life isn’t about finding yourself. It is about creating yourself. — George Bernard Shaw
And as Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. explains in an article in Psychology Today, creating goals as a couple is one of the most powerful and connecting things you can do.
It is important to create your own relationship with your partner. A relationship where you understand and fulfil each other’s needs. You both know that what makes other relationships tick might be different for yours — and being okay with that.

7 Remarkable Signs That You Should Marry Your Life Partner

Written by Shannon F. Genovese